HOW TO KNOW IF YOU ARE BEING USED IN A RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIAGE:

Here are signs to help you identify if you’re being used in a relationship or marriage:

*Emotional Exploitation:*

1. Partner only reaches out when needing emotional support.
2. They dismiss or minimize your feelings.
3. You’re constantly reassuring or comforting them.
4. They use guilt or anger to control you.
5. Your emotional needs are ignored.

*Financial Exploitation:*

1. Partner spends your money without consent.
2. They rely on you for financial support.
3. You’re forced to cover expenses or debts.
4. Your financial decisions are controlled.
5. They hide financial information.

*Physical Exploitation:*

1. Partner only initiates intimacy for personal gratification.
2. You feel pressured or coerced into physical activities.
3. Your boundaries are disregarded.
4. They prioritize their physical needs over yours.
5. You feel objectified.

*Manipulation and Control:*

1. Partner uses gaslighting or emotional blackmail.
2. They isolate you from friends and family.
3. You’re constantly walking on eggshells.
4. They make decisions without consulting you.
5. You feel trapped or suffocated.

*Lack of Reciprocity:*

1. Partner doesn’t show appreciation or gratitude.
2. They don’t contribute to household responsibilities.
3. You’re always initiating plans or conversations.
4. Your efforts are ignored or unacknowledged.
5. You feel like you’re carrying the relationship.

*Red Flags:*

1. Inconsistent or unreliable behavior.
2. Disrespect or disdain for boundaries.
3. Selfish or egotistical behavior.
4. Lack of accountability or responsibility.
5. History of manipulation or exploitation.

*Self-Reflection Questions:*

1. Do I feel valued and respected?
2. Are my needs and feelings prioritized?
3. Do I feel trapped or suffocated?
4. Am I consistently sacrificing my own needs?
5. Do I feel happy and fulfilled?

*What to Do:*

1. Re-evaluate the relationship.
2. Communicate your concerns.
3. Set boundaries.
4. Seek support (counseling, friends, family).
5. Consider distance or separation.

Remember:

1. You deserve respect and care.
2. Your feelings and needs matter.
3. Don’t ignore red flags.
4. Prioritize self-care and well-being.
5. Seek help if needed.