*MARRIAGE without Privacy…*

I am writing specifically to married people and the soon-to-be-married. Wealth, beautiful home and a good job will not secure your marriage. Adam had wealth, he had paradise as home and had a good job yet his marriage was at the mercy of a serpent.

I want to speak more specifically to someone whose marriage is at the mercy of a crooked serpent. You know that the problem in your marriage is the handwork of a third party who hijacked the mind of your partner. It could be their friend, family or even a total stranger who gained access to their vulnerability. And now, your partner is feeding you the same junk with which they were fed. Don’t blame your partner, blame yourself. You failed to secure your territory.

That was Adam’s first mistake – he failed to create a boundary between his new family and the animals. That’s the mistake some of us are making also – you are failing to build a fence around your family to keep dangerous ‘animals’ away. Hear This: Prayer or Crying can not secure what you expose.

There are people who suggest strange thoughts to your partner in your absence – some suggest that you are cheating and that they should investigate you. Those are the serpents that crept into Eden.

From the day I understood the principle of privacy, my life has never been the same. I enjoy REST – the kind of REST that only comes from SECURITY.

There’s someone who is reading this post who needs to set boundaries. You need to put a stop to people asking you unnecessary questions about your spouse. Beware of Questions like “when will your husband/wife get a job and help in paying bills?”. Respond to such with “How is that your business?”. Do not be kind with people who ask insensitive and disrespectful questions about your partner.

And do not over share your marital bliss or chaos on social media.

Whether you are happy or unhappy in your marriage, keep it away from the public.
Do not use your marriage to “Pepper Them” on social media.
And if you break up, just do it quietly without noise. I know a friend of mine who got divorced 5 years ago and never said a word. He tried another relationship but didn’t succeed and he went back to his wife quitely.
Had he announced his divorce publicly, it wouldn’t have been easy re-marrying his ex wife. Today, they are happy and rebuilding privately. You don’t owe anyone updates about your marriage or relationship.

I don’t mean to scare you but if you don’t take the privacy of your home serious, you risk losing your paradise (home). I know people who used to live in Paradise before who now hide under ‘trees’ for shelter because they allowed a serpent to manipulate the mind of their partner.

Wherever there’s a marriage, privacy and security is vital. Because every marriage is an expensive treasure desperately searched for by both people and beasts.

Even on social media, we don’t run an open door policy…. We are CAREFUL and INTENTIONAL. That’s why I ignore people who display serpentine character here. Set boundaries and enforce privacy.

The success of your marriage is hugely in your ability to guide it against third parties negative influences including that from close family members/friends.

_Every marriage is peculiar, don’t use another’s to judge the SUCCESS of yours!!!_

Tumininu Adunni cares